About this resource
“Self-Care is Not Selfish” is part of Caregiving.com’s 3 Minute Care Tips video series — short, uplifting support tips from caregiving consultant and coach Saskia de Quaasteniet. In a few minutes, it tackles one of the most stubborn barriers caregivers face: the guilt that makes taking care of themselves feel selfish.
Many caregivers believe that any time or energy spent on themselves is taken away from their loved one, so they push their own needs aside until they’re depleted. This tip gently dismantles that belief, reminding caregivers that self-care isn’t selfish — it’s what makes sustained, loving care possible. By caring for themselves, caregivers protect their health, patience, and capacity to keep going. The short format delivers this reframing in a way that’s easy to absorb and carry into the day.
This resource matters because guilt is one of the biggest obstacles to caregiver self-care, and simply hearing “this is not selfish” from a trusted coach can give a caregiver permission they didn’t know they needed. The 3 Minute Care Tips series specializes in quick, encouraging nudges like this. For caregivers who feel guilty putting themselves first even for a moment, this short, free video is a helpful reset. It is available on Caregiving.com.
What you'll get from this resource
- A short Caregiving.com video tip from coach Saskia de Quaasteniet on letting go of self-care guilt.
- Dismantles the belief that caring for yourself takes away from your loved one.
- Reframes self-care as what makes sustained, loving care possible.
- Free and available on Caregiving.com.
Frequently asked questions
That self-care is not selfish — it protects your health, patience, and capacity to keep providing loving care.
Caregivers who feel guilty taking any time or energy for themselves.
The video is free and available on Caregiving.com.
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